some of these points stated below may not the usual conventional points or quotes you’ve heard, but at the end of the day, it is the application that matters. It is how you apply these truths when to apply and the motive (why) behind the application that matters most of the time.
Let’s take a look at these nuggets – hard to digest, maybe uncomfortable but worth thinking about.
Happiness is where you are now, or nowhere at all
Have you ever heard people say, I have all a young man, a young woman, a CEO, etc. could have, but I can’t seem to find happiness? Well, it means, someway somehow along the line, they have postponed their happiness to the futures – when they attain a goal or something. So they didn’t know how to find out their own happiness in spite of their accomplishments.
The truth is, it’s not a new relationship, it’s not a new job, it’s not a completed goal, and definitely not the cars. Until you give up on the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.
Sometimes Quitting is for winners
This is definitely bitter to swallow. But before you start thinking too much remember from the introduction, I mentioned that a quote or nugget you carry also depends on how you apply it as much as just knowing it.
Contrary to popular opinion, quitting is for winners. Knowing when to quit, change direction, leave a toxic situation, demand more from life, give up on something that isn’t working and move on, is a very important skill that people who win at life all seem to have.
But don’t quit because it’s hard. Quit because it sucks
It’s not your job to fix damaged people
Your responsibility to help someone will never outweigh their responsibility to help themselves. But it’s worth asking yourself why you resonated so strongly with someone that desperately needed “fixing” in the first place.
Often, our own toxic romantic and non-romantic attachments tell a story about an issue we have within ourselves
Taking no risk is the biggest risk
This perhaps is common among these quotes. And it is very true is all aspect. When we say life is full of risks, some of us don’t like the idea of risking our money, time, energy for anything we are not sure would bring the desired result.
The truth is, you have to risk failure to succeed. You have to risk rejection to be accepted. You have to risk heartbreak to love and more. If you are always avoiding risk, you are risking missing out on life entirely.
Call Yourself Out
The most common reason why people keep making the same mistakes is that they are insecure and their ego prevents them from taking responsibility for their own BS, their own toxic traits, and their own mistakes.
You would have to call yourself out.
Calling yourself out means, you care more about your future, your progress, your happiness, than just protecting your ego or even the happiness of others.
If you are happy alone, you will be happier together
There is no type of affection that can fill the void in a person who doesn’t love themselves already.
There is no independence in dependency. There is no personal security in attaching yourself to a secure person. Until you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you won’t make healthy decisions about someone else
Closure is your choice
Closure isn’t a apology, or justice or answers. That’s insecurity.
If the situation made you feel awful, seeking closure by reopening it is insanity. Closure isn’t something they give you. Closure is moving on. closure is your choice.