Most times it’s easier for someone who has gone through an experience or a particular stage of life to advise others. We may as well be willing enough to listen to such persons than the ones with no experience whatsoever.
Experience they say has always been the best teacher and life can teach us lessons that we won’t be willing to take the former route again should we have the second chance through that stage.
To be honest, even though our world has become a fast-moving one with technology, rapid lifestyle change, social media, and all, it’s worth listening to the old and wise folks who are able to see into the future.
There is an adage is the Akan language that states that what a child cannot see standing on a tall platform, an older person can see on the ground without any aid.
Let look into some very insightful life’s lesson some folks have learned and have shared in the form of advice to the younger generation I found on Reddit in this article.
1. If I Knew I Would Live This Long.
An 83years old Grandpa told his grandson these 3 words:
“If I knew I was gonna live this long, I would have taken better care of myself.”
“The right job is the job you love some days and can tolerate most days and still pays the bills. Almost nobody has a job they love every day.” “My family is the only thing I care about anymore. Remember that”
2. Do not fall into Credit Trap
Don’t fall into the credit trap. Live within your means. I know two kinds of people; those who save for things that they want and then pay cash, and those who buy on credit and pay interest on top of the purchase price. Once you start doing this it can quickly become impossible to change the pattern. All of your extra income goes to paying the credit cards/car payment/etc. and you can no longer put any money in savings. Then when you need (or want) to buy something, you have to do it with credit. Add a sudden large expense such as a medical bill, and you may never escape the pattern.
Take care of your health and your finances. Start eating better and exercising regularly. If you put on weight now, it will be much harder to lose it later. And if you get into the habit of eating a very high-calorie diet, you’ll probably continue that diet as your metabolism slows down and you’ll put on the weight then.
3. Books, Books, Books
All the cliches apply (sunblock, flossing, travel). But don’t stop reading books, lots and lots and lots of books. Crappy ones, disturbing ones, difficult ones, fun ones. You can only live your one tiny life, but with books, you can live thousands more.
4. Time surely flies in a blink of an eye
I’m exactly 60 and agree with what’s been said so far. Especially how fast your children grow up. It’s why grandchildren are so wonderful…I realize it now and appreciate and savor every single minute with them.
I would also say that years go by in the blink of an eye. Don’t marry young. Live your life.
Go places. Do things. If you have the means or not. Pack a bag and go wherever you can afford to go. While you have no dependents, don’t buy stuff. Any stuff. See the world. Look through travel magazines and pick a spot. GO!
If you have a dream of being or doing something that seems impossible, try for it anyway. It will only become more impossible as you age and become responsible for other people.
We have one time on this earth. Don’t wake up and realize that you are 60 years old and haven’t done the things you dreamed about.
5. Call more, text less
I would say to appreciate the small things and to be present in the moment. What do I mean?
Well, it seems today like younger people are all about immediate gratification. Instead, why not appreciate every small moment? We don’t get to stay on this crazy/wonderful planet forever and the greatest pleasure can be found in the most mundane of activities. Instead of sending a text, pick up the phone and call someone.
Call your mother. Really, call me.
I know you are busy and have a new girlfriend and an important job, but please, you just have one mother. I promise I won’t ask about children or about your shiksa girlfriend. No, really, as long as you two love each other. Can she cook? I meant to tell you that you looked too thin when I saw you last week.
Marriage is not 50:50. It is 100:100. Remember that when you wake up and when you go to bed. Every day.
6. Focus when you work
Someone was told me when I was working ridiculous hours and was stressed beyond reason, something that has really stuck with me. He said:
“Nobody ever dies wishing they had worked more.”
Since that very day, I have tried to get out of work on a more reasonable schedule, saving the crazy crunch hours for when there truly is a crisis at work. I still think it’s important to excel at work, as getting laid off would of course, suck, but I just try to stay very focused and get it done in as few hours as possible. I spend more time with my wife and doing hobbies as a result.
7. Life is a bank account
Remember that life is like a bank account: You don’t want to spend everything you have right away, but you don’t want to be a miser and save every penny. Yes, you’re only young once, but, with any luck, you’ll also be old at some point. Plan on a career, but don’t let it overcome the rest of your life.
Take care of yourself, but don’t make it an obsession. Focus on your kids, but leave room in your life for yourself. Save enough money so that you’ll have enough for the future and for emergencies, but spend enough now to avoid looking back with regret.
I’ve tried to balance living for the moment with planning for the future, and it’s worked out well. Many of my friends who ignored the future when they were in their 20s and early 30s now bitterly regret it, but many of my friends who did nothing but work and strive during the same period say they have the same level of regret.
8. Sometimes just turn off the TV
Collect experiences. I don’t have many regrets, but I do wish I would have traveled more when I was younger.
When you have kids you will be time warping. Spend as much time with your children as you can. Turn off the TV, get away from the computer. You will never understand the impact you have on their lives. Make the most of it.
9. Your happiness is paramount and it rules all
Life isn’t serious.
Success or failure means nothing in the scheme of life’s existence, never mind your life.
If you are fortunate enough to be born into relative wealth, enjoy it. And if you aren’t, do everything in your power to make everyone’s lives better. The only goal we can ever really have as a species is equality of happiness.
10. Never be quick to judge others
When you meet someone for the first time, realize that you know nothing about them. You see race, gender, age, clothes. Forget it. You know nothing. Those biased assumptions that pop into your head because of the way your brain likes categories are limiting your life, and others’ lives.
Some of these things are taken on a very lighter note by the young folks but on a more serious note, no matter how advance and complex our societies develop to be, you can agree with me that these things still apply. The ultimate goal is to live an intentional, fulfilling, and satisfying life. At the end of the day, when we are happy with the direction our lives go, with minimal regrets upon reflection, we are able to live the life that counts and impacts others as well.
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